Yesterday was my 33rd birthday. A non-glamorous 33. I spent all day cleaning our new and temporary gym space.
It’s crazy to think about. I’d say right now my life is on the trajectory that I want. Certainly not at the pace I desire, but inside of that I have a random collection of thoughts that have served me well. They are in no particular order.
1. Where much is given, much is expected. It is easy to downplay your potential. We’re all blessed with different strengths and gifts, and it is only right that we leverage these gifts for greatness and serving others.
2. Never hide from the man/woman you want to become. Too often people relegate themselves to less than they’re deserving of because of a story they have, the obstacles they avoid, or the clarity they lack.
3. Trade late nights for early mornings. Starting your day off before everyone else puts it on the right foot. Even the night owls can benefit from switching up their schedule, it just might take more discipline.
4. The best investment is an investment in yourself. Invest time, money, and energy into you. Give your body, mind, and spirit what it needs to expand.
5.My three favorite sayings from the past 365 days: “Do the work,” “Do what you say you’re gonna do,” and “The details matter.” What you find resonating with you can say a lot about where you are in life. Things stand out at different times for different reason in your life.
6. Ask yourself better questions. Few people ask themselves difficult questions and ruminate on the answers. It’s hard to bask in the presence of your answers. Writing and meditating are powerful tools to explore the answers behind your answers.
7. New Levels, New Devils. No matter what level you’re playing at you’ll have problems. When you level up and get rid of the problems you have now, new challenges are waiting for you. This leads me to believe two things: 1) You have to find joy right here, right now and 2) Every challenge is your key to unlocking the next level.
8. Never walk past a mistake. Every item you mentally tag for later creates an open loop. Eliminate as many as possible as quickly as possible.
9. On spontaneity: say yes. Stop the thing that’s important and go with the flow. My kids are 3 1/2 and want my attention constantly. There is a time for work, but there is also a time to stop what you’re doing in the middle of the day and chase one kid around the house while you read an out-of-season holiday book for 15,194th time to another.
10. Forget what you know and go. I did just about everything wrong building my business. There’s a lot to be learned by just putting one foot in front of the other and figuring this out as you go.
11. We all have stories, what are yours? Your stories precede beliefs and beliefs precede action. I work daily to unravel my stories and learn from them with a systematic process. You may be even telling yourself a story that you don’t have stories, but what insights do you rob yourself from by assuming that?
12. How you do anything is how you do everything. Don’t think that cutting corners in one area won’t show up in another.
13. A solid morning routine is the most powerful way to start your day. Few things let me head into my day feeling as much power as going through my routine. And yes, it includes coffee.
14. Ask, “Am I doing everything I can to influence this situation?” Most of what triggers me during a day starts with a story and ends with a realization that I’m not doing everythingI can to influence the situation.
15. The voice in your head doesn’t get an opinion. There are enough people that will say things to keep you down. Curate your self-talk and shut it down negativity.
16. Being your best starts with feeling your best. Gook going from New York to LA in a beater. Your body is the same way. Prep it to withstand the journey if you want to go places.
17. “Consider the possibility…” Fill in your own blank. Dream your own dream. This phrase will challenge your beliefs, your stories, and your comfort zones.
18. Explain their problem better than they can. If you want to connect with others, listen intently and show you understand them on a visceral level.
19. Give presence every day. An extension on #18. Be here, now.
20. What most annoys you might provide some insight into your current or past challenges. Every emotion is worth exploration. Understanding what makes you tick gives you power.
21. Ambiguity is a step toward uncertainty. Lack of clarity creates confusion and stifles forward movement.
22. Objectivity slices through fantasy. Where do you need a reality check?
23. High tide doesn’t protect you from what’s beneath. When times are good it’s easy to cover up the shit. The truth will expose you. The anchors will drag you down.
24. The hardest part about leveling up is letting go of where you are (and all that comes with it) without guilt and shame.
25. I believe our #1 goal is to maximize our God-given abilities and potential to IMPACT others.
26. That being said…don’t underestimate the impact of anything you do.
27. The lessons have been taught, but they have not been applied. Where do you have the knowledge, but lack the results?
28. You can do anything, but you can’t do everything. Spreading yourself thin is a recipe for boredom, burnout or the sensation that you want to burn it to the ground.
29. You are the sum of thousands of tiny choices. What have you focused on that led you to this place you are right now? And Is that relevant to where you want to go?
30. The most important thing may not be what we do, but what we choose not to do. Behold the power of, “No.”
31. Date nights with your significant other ranks among the most important things you can do. This is the primary relationship of the household, treat it that way.
32. There are few things a 5-minute workout can’t fix to reset your brain and clear headspace.
33. Pay it forward. Live generously. Love generously.